Thursday, August 19, 2010

how to ask a guy date out...???




Want more than anything else in the world to ask the cutest guy in the world out, but you melt when your near him? Everyone knows that it's never easy to do something like that, no matter how much experience you've had.



  • Pick a guy that isn't taken. This is probably the most important part!! If you don't know if he is or not, you could ask someone to casually ask him or just go up and ask.
  • Get to know that guy and see if you like him or not
  • If you do but are barely able to talk to him ( let alone ask him out),make yourself known in his presence. Try finding out what things you have in common.. Join a club together, play a sport, or just talk about something
  • Practice talking to him in the mirror. It may be weird but it will work trust me..
  • Get up your guts and go say hi. Strike a conversation, anything, if you have similar interest
  •  See how it goes when he is around you. If he likes you, then that is absolutely great. If he doesn't, well, he might be shy, but either way, you should still ask him out. 
  • Ask him out. This is the hardest part because it takes bravery to go up to a guy who's been to your liking such a long time. And if you really really can't ask him out try telling him that you like him first because then there might be more chance that when you do ask him out that he'll say yes since he's had time to get used to the fact you like him. Some guys freak out at first, so that's why you sometimes get rejected by them!
  • If you're too scared to ask a guy out that you like, try getting him to notice you. When he walks by you say hello or stare at him passionately to tell him something. If you think that's a bad idea then try finding out where he hangs out and walk by. Look at him and smile. Then talk to him a bit; get to know him. If he has friends that are girls ask them what he's like and then either go for a direct approach or ask him to a movie and say it's with him and some of your friends (that way it's not so awkward)
  • If it's a boy that has a lot of friends around all the time or has a big mouth, you could get a trustworthy friend to go ask him for you. Or get a friend to go say there's a girl in (your class) that wants to go out with you; what girls in (your class) would you go out with? and then if he says your name, your friend could say, well it's (your name) so will you go out with her? 

 TIPS
  • If you're playing the hinting game, be obvious! Guys don't realize you're hinting and flirting unless it's pretty obvious!
     
  • try to find out if he likes you first before you ask him out. Otherwise you may get hurt. But, don't be pushy when you ask, that could make him not like you.   
  • Flirt. Guys love it when you flirt plus it drops a hint in a subtle way.
  • Make him laugh. They won't date you if you're really boring.
  • Don't worry too much about being rejected, most guys generally won't say no, even if you're not considered popular. If he asks you about your motivations for asking him out, or some other vague question instead of actually answering, he most likely just wasn't expecting you to ask him out and is actually just playing for time so he can try to figure out how to say yes while simultaneously looking 'cool', just give him a few moments, do something to ease the tension like smiling (sincerely). He will most likely end up saying "Oh fine". Do not be discouraged, he has just failed to generate a cool response and has switched to the "Well I don't care very much, but I'll go anyways" attitude, he will warm up eventually.
  • The most important thing to do IF he says no: Don't hold a grudge he'll sense your hostility and won't try to have a friendship. When you get home go for a cry and then write down your emotions. This will help you in so many ways. Even though he said no still try to keep things exactly the same before you asked him. He'll sense your confidence and this could start something. Keep the flirting to a normal status. He already know you like him don't push your fate. Keep your confidence people might start asking about your little mishap with him. Just shake off rude comments even if your spirit is a little hurt. Don't stop liking him just because of this. It's just one day!! If he does say yes, plan to go somewhere where there is a lot of people - Go somewhere like the park on your first date as this will make the guy think your nice and fun.

WARNING

  • If he says no, you are probably too good for him anyways. He doesn't know whom he is messing with.
  • If he says no, don't hold a grudge. that could make it so he never likes you.
  • Don't ask him in front of friends since that will put pressure on him and he's most likely to say no in front of his friends!
  • If he says maybe, don't get your hopes up too high because maybe he doesn't have the heart to say no or that he needs time to think about it properly. He probably doesn't want to make you feel bad.
  • Start out with small things like slow dancing at school dances or partnering up for a school project.
  • If he says no because he is taken, let him know you are still on a friendly status, just incase he has a fight with her, he'll think you are more supportive of him than she is and start to realise he likes you.
  • If he says no, don't be too down. Maybe he's just too busy to have a girlfriend. Don't ask him why, because this will make him uncomfortable and NOBODY likes a girl who goes round asking lots of questions.

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