Think Twice Before u gonna have a BREAK up with ur loved once... !

Boy:
I broke up with her.

His Best Friend:
What happened?

Boy:
She’s just too much for me.

His Best Friend:
What makes you say that? What did she do wrong?

Boy:
Well,...for one.. She only cared about her appearance. Always had to look good,
always took forever to get dressed! So insecure..

His Best Friend:
So, you broke her heart because she wanted to keep your eyes locked on her?
She wanted you to see that you have the prettiest girl under your sleeve and not think otherwise? I see..

Boy:
Oh.. Well.. She’d often call me or text me asking where I am, who I’m with, telling
me not to smoke, not to drink. She’s so clingy!

His Best Friend:
So,you broke her heart because she cares about your well being? Because she
cares about you a lot? And her greatest fear is losing you. I see..

Boy:
But.. Uhh.. Well, she’d always cry when I say something slightly mean.
She can’t handle anything. She’s a crybaby!

His Best Friend:
So, you broke her heart because she has feelings? And because she just
wanted to hear you say you love her? I see..

Boy:
I.. Well! You know,
she’d get jealous easily. I could barely talk to other girls! She’s so
annoying! I had to hide it from her.

His Best Friend:
So, you broke her heart because she just wanted you to commit to her?
She thought you
were faithful, but you lied so she could find out later and hurt even
more? She just wanted the guy she loves the most to love only her. I see..

Boy:
Well, she..

His Best Friend:
You broke up with her because she’s good for you?
She just wanted the best for you? She’s broken now because you were selfish.
Are you proud?

Boy:
I broke her heart.. Because I couldn’t see what was happening..
What happened to me?

His Best Friend:
You lost the girl that loved you like no one else could.
You see? You didn’t want her when all she ever wanted was you.
THAT’S what happened..

Daddy's day

Her hair up in a ponytail, her favorite dress tied with a bow

Today was Daddy’s Day at school, and she couldn’t wait to go

But her mommy tried to tell her, that she probably should stay home

Why the kids might not understand, if she went to school alone

But she was not afraid; she knew just what to say

What to tell her classmates, on this Daddy’s Day

But still her mother worried, for her to face this day alone

And that was why once again, she tried to keep her daughter home

But the little girl went to school, eager to tell them all

About a dad she never sees, a dad who never calls

  There were daddies along the wall in back, for everyone to meet

Children squirming impatiently, anxious in their seats

One by one the teacher called, a student from the class

To introduce their daddy, as seconds slowly passed

At last the teacher called her name, every child turned to stare

Each of them were searching, for a man that wasn’t there

“Where’s her daddy at?”  She heard a boy call out

“She probably doesn’t have one.”  Another student dared to shout

And from somewhere near the back, she heard a daddy say

“Looks like another deadbeat dad, too busy to waste his day.”

The words did not offend her, as she smiled at her friends

And looked back at her teacher, who told her to begin

And with hands behind her back, slowly she began to speak

And out from the mouth of a child, came words incredibly unique

“My Daddy couldn’t be here, because he lives so far away

But I know he wishes he could be, with me on this day

And though you cannot meet him, I wanted you to know

All about my daddy, and how much he loves me so

He loved to tell me stories, he taught me to ride my bike

He surprised me with pink roses, and he taught me to fly a kite

We used to share fudge sundaes, and ice cream in a cone

And though you cannot see him, I’m not standing all alone

‘Cause my daddy’s always with me, even though we are apart

I know because he told me, he’ll forever be here in my heart”

With that her little hand reached up, and lay across her chest

Feeling her own heartbeat, beneath her favorite dress

And from somewhere in the crowd of dads, her mother stood in tears

Proudly watching her daughter, who was wise beyond her years

For she stood up for the love, of a man not in her life

Doing what was best for her, doing what was right

And when she dropped her hand back down, staring straight into the crowd

She finished with a voice so soft, but its message clear and loud

“I love my daddy very much, he’s my shining star

And if he could he’d be here, but heavens just too far

But sometimes when I close my eyes, it’s like he never went away”

And then she closed her eyes, and saw him there that day

And to her mother’s amazement, she witnessed with surprise

A room full of daddies and children, all starting to close their eyes

Who knows what they saw before them, who knows what they felt inside

Perhaps for merely a second, they saw him at her side

“I know you’re with me daddy.”  To the silence she called out

And what happened next made believers, of those once filled with doubt

Not one in that room could explain it, for each of their eyes had been closed

But there placed on her desktop, was a beautiful fragrant pink rose

And a child was blessed, if only a moment, by the love of her shining bright star

And given the gift of believing, that heaven is never too far

~Chicken Soup for the Parent's Soul, and, Stories for a Teen's  Heart 2. ~

The secret of '' What girls wants but wont ask for''

1. Touch her waist.
2. Actually talk to her.
3. Share secrets with her.
4. Give her your jacket.
5. Kiss her slowly.

Are you remembering this?

6. Hug her.
7. Hold her.
8. Laugh with her.
9. Invite her somewhere.
10. Hangout with her and your friends together.


KEEP READING .

11. Smile with her.
12. Take pictures with her.
13. Pull her onto your lap.
14. When she says she loves you more, deny it. Fight back.
15. When her friends say “I love her more than you”, deny it. Fight back and hug her tight so she can’t get to her friends. It makes her feel loved.

Are you thinking of someone?

16. Always hug her and say I love you whenever you see her.
17. Kiss her unexpectedly.
18. Hug her from behind around the waist.
19. Tell her she’s beautiful.
20. Tell her the way you feel about her.

One last thing you need to do to show her you actually do mean it.

21. Open doors for her, walk her to her car - it makes her feel protected, plus it never hurts to act like a     gentleman.
22. Tell her she’s your everything - ONLY IF YOU MEAN IT!
23. If it seems like there is something wrong, ask her - if she denies something being wrong, it means SHE DOESN’T WANT TO TALK ABOUT IT - so just hug her.

24. Make her feel loved.
25. Kiss her in front of OTHER girls you know!

WE MIGHT DENY IT BUT WE ACTUALLY LIKE AND KINDA WANT YOU TO TICKLE US ..

26. Don’t lie to her.
27. DON’T cheat on her.
28. Take her ANYWHERE she wants.
29. Text message or call her in the morning and tell her have a good day at school, and how much you miss her.
30. Be there for her whenever she needs you, and even when she doesn’t need you, just be there so she’ll know that she can always count on you.

ARE YOU STILL READING THIS? YOU BETTER, BECAUSE IT’S IMPORTANT.

31. Hold her close when she’s cold so she can hold you too.
32. When you are alone hold her close and kiss her.
33. Kiss her on the cheek; (it will give her the hint that you want to kiss her).
34. While in the movies, put your arm around her and then she will automatically put her head on your shoulder, then lean in and tilt her chin up and kiss her lightly.
35. Don’t ever tell her to leave even jokingly or act like you’re mad. If she’s upset, comfort her.

REMEMBER ALL THESE THINGS WHEN YOU ARE WITH HER NEXT ...

36. When people diss her, stand up for her.
37. Look deep into her eyes and tell her you love her.
38. Lay down under the stars and put her head on your chest so she can listen to the steady beat of your heart, link your fingers together while you whisper to her as she rests her eyes and listens to you.
39. When walking next to each other grab her hand.
40. When you hug her, hold her in your arms as long as possible.

MAKE SURE SHE KNOWS SHES LOVED...

41. Call or text her at night to wish her sweet dreams.
42. Comfort her when she cries and wipe away her tears.
43. Take her for long walks at night.
44. Always remind her how much you love her.
45. Sit on top of her and tell her how much you love her and then bend down to her face and kiss her while you’re sitting on her.

You see... We girls will give u a hint of what we want and never ask thingy... But what happen is that at times... Maybe most of the times you guys are just too dumb to catch those hints... so me and maybe others girl around will help what we want from u guys... So that you guys are educated with want we want... All above is affections and cuddliness that most girls wants to see from a guy... Those highlighted ones are maybe sort of important ones... All we want is to make us feel special... Its not being demanding but i guess we are already making the guy that we are in love with special... ;) So have fun... Good day people...  

sorry....

One simple word you can make all the hurting worth... Someone ask me sorry today after so long... When I say long its really long... After 3 years and 6 months... When he ask me sorry i teared... When he confessed his mistakes... I was speechless... I couldn't find a word to talk to him... My mouth was glued... M not so sure why... We always say we should forget and forgive people.... I did forgive him... But i will not forget how I felt when he hurt me.. And i will not forget how hurtful it was...

The reason for me to write this.... Is that i have realize today that in our everyday journey... We always forget to ask sorry and say thank u... Tell your friends they look good today.. Give a kiss to loved ones... Say that you love them.. And etc... There many things in this world we take it lightly... M not going to say what everyone use to tell... Say sorry before its too late... Tell them u love them... And so on... But what i would like to say is that appreciate this people who love you and treasure in a big way... Because the may forgive you but the may not forget the pain u gave them... Words hurt more compare to wounds... =)

continuation from '' something you call L-O-V-E''

Its been long since i write.. And all of a sudden I felt like writing again..Previously i wrote a post called something call love...

What is love to you?Love could be an undefined expression for someone...Love could be crazy for someone...Love is secret for someone...But to me..Love is WEIRD!! Love is something which you still don't really know the meaning..

That was from my previous post and i did mention at the end of the post i would talk about the guy who make me feel this weird, undefined, crazy, some called it faith and more...Which is widely known as something call love... Well yes... Been writing something for pass don't know when.... Hopefully this is a good one... So..

It was a normal day at college ...I was out for a break was talking to a friend of mine..And we were out of my friend's classroom..Then as usual i took a sneak peak in his class and i saw him.. ( All right people i know its like a typical story...just follow up alright) I quickly ask my friend '' who is he??''  My friend replied ''he?'' while doing something

'' Him!! the guy with specs and cap... white t-shirt'' while not moving my eyes away from him...
'' Oh!! him... a friend of mine... he is an international dude... very smart guy.. why?? 
'' Just asking... what is his name??'' asking my friend curiously  
'' m not sure of the full name...but i think its Viven''  said and open the door and introduced me...


And he introduced me to him...I blushed like hell!! Like seriously what have happen to me...Why m blushing?? What the hack..! Then i entered my class.. From the time i saw him till i get back i was disturbed... At that moment i said to myself what the F**k is wrong with me? I couldn't be in love... Seriously...Because i hardly know this guy.. Basically i don't even know him... Zero educated about him.... That day itself i search him in Facebook... Thanks to technology and social network call Facebook... I searched him in Facebook... Just to see my luck.. Everyone has Facebook... Like basically anyone on the planet of the earth... And if this guy don't have it he is a nerd.. Searching....Searching.. FOUND!! i was all excited... smiling widely... 

i text my friend saying that ''i found him'' my friend was like ''found?? who?? '' ''that guy that u just randomly without my permission introduce me today....'' ''oh! where??'' '' in Facebook'' ''oh okay...add him in and get on track''' And then i added him...

Then like each time i see him... I blush and i get shy.. Face turn red, butterflies in me and that would be the best day ever... hahaha.. *ya! the butterfly period* 

hmmmm... Then i was going out with him...He turn out to be a nice guy and so on.. During that period I was thinking to myself and imagining the beautiful fairy tale love story that we all use to have during young time... Prince and princess... You know... Then i put my friend into hell!! Made my friend to be close to him... So that i can so call come and see my friend but then m there to see him... And i also had a cousin of his as my friend.. Its funny to think what i have put this two people in... And finally i gave up with this two people and i get down in business by myself.... Told him by myself... Again.... That was in  Facebook.. Facebook is really connecting people... hehe.. I told him what i feel about him and he gave no response for it!! And again my friend and mostly his cousin got all sort of scolding and yelling from me just because he didn't respond to me... *Unfair right! i know... just need to release it*  

Semester break was on.. And my friend and me planned to go to this place called Port Dickson.. He was invited anyway... M not sure what happen there but m pretty sure i was not even trying because i totally gave up... Tried for like more then half a year and NO RESPONSE.... So just literally gave up... Haiz!!! After the trip... Uh'hu.... Here comes the part that i was like waiting.. Because i wanted an answer by the end of the year...So that i could decide my way.... Then he called... And he said


'' I feel like telling u everything'' 
'' Skip the crab and come to the point...Is it 100% or what??'' was on impatient 
'' Yes! it 100%.. i want to be with you''

I smiled widely and was jumping and looking at myself in the mirror and said '' you rock!! you are the best! here you princess ur prince charming... '' Wink at myself  and obviously he was still on the phone and i did that when i was silent.. you know those silent moment...Continue talking while blushing...

To wrap up my story... It could be or could not be a boring story.. End of the day i believe that this story is not all... This is just my beginning..Our beginning...And to talk about him... My friend would just say '' you don't want her to start''... hahaha....


He ... Is not a guy who takes me everywhere i want to go... Be cuddly... Romantic.. Flirtatious.... Showers me with lots of gifts... Greeting cards... Poems... Random quotes.. Beautiful good morning messages.. Call me like every hours of every second.. Be the first one to message me before i do.. Unbearable of separation of good night message  and so on.... BUT... He.. Showers me with his love and cuddle me with his care... Romantic in his own way... Being different in terms of flirting... And mornings are always beautiful when i wake up in the morning knowing that he is there to support me when m weak.. To share my happiness... To wipe off my tears when m crying... To lend his shoulder when m down.... To motivate me when i lost faith in me... Listens to me.... Most of all being a partner more then a boyfriend... And nights are always bearable when i close my eyes and hit the sack... Thinking that he love me in all possible way and he would do anything to continue  the journey with me to the future... Everyday when i wake up and till i get on bed life gets harder and harder... I'm just glad that i have someone like him to love and be loved back and help me through it...

So....Love is highly recommended...! Its beautiful but its fragile...So be careful... Don't let anyone to come in your way... A relation should be about you and him/her... Not about you, him/her and another person... Its doesn't work that way... 


The beginning... Thanks for reading my story...Will write something else tomorrow... Till then take care everyone... And keep tell the person you love '' i love you''... The most sweetest word that could give a smile on anyone's face...

 

Mum's 48th b'day....

19th November 2010...My brother and I wanted to celebrate mu's birthday..It suppose to be a surprise party but eventually she found out about it...Anyway, i have always thought that everything happen is life is a lesson...While Planning mum's birthday, it was all fun and joy...I personally did it because i wanted to show her that I love her and i also wanted to meet my fellow cousins...;) But...during the event something that i realize is that my mum...She laugh will all her hearts out...She had a mile long smile..Which i missed ever since dad passed away..She do smile..She do laugh...But something was different that day...When i asked her ''how was your 48th birthday party?''..She smiled and said, ''I'm very happy and she walked away''. At that very moment i felt blessed..Because of 10 years of hard work and pain she gone through, finally she deserved something good..Birthdays might be a small thing in ones life..But little that i believed that birthday is unforgettable day for you and your parents...Celebrating someone's birthday is some much fun and excitement..The smile on one's face..I have learn that in all my years of celebrating birthday to people that i know, i have earned lots of blessing..And mum loved her birthday...tears was rolling down my eyes when i saw her smiling and blowing off the candle...And i was so proud to be her daughter...

P.S: mum i love you so much and i wish you know how much you meant to me..!




love,your daughter,
Shamala Nair

Something you call L-O-V-E

What is love to you?Love could be an undefined expression for someone...Love could be crazy for someone...Love is secret for someone...But to me..Love is something which you still don't really know the meaning..We all love our family...Friends and also enemies at times...But when you are in love and learning how to see the imperfect person perfectly things will go on to be weird..Love is some moment that last forever..When you are reading this m pretty sure that you all are thinking this human here is so in love...hahahaha...basically i wish i find my prince charming and have a fairly tale wedding...hope things goes on happy..But one thing love is.....WEIRD...I mean how could you fall in love with someone that you might not know for a very long time...He or she might just run in your life in the middle and started to change something in you...Weird right...I hope someday i have that crazy feeling too..and yea! Hope my next post will be about him...And i wish to talk more about it...Everyday is a valentine's day to those who are madly in love..The crazy weird thing we all call, L-O-V-E...!

It has been a long time...

Hmmm...All of a sudden sitting by the side of my classroom door, i have realize that it has been long since i wrote something in my blog...Here I'm today to write something about what i have learn for pass few days...I have learn something that call ''Smile''...If you all are asking me..Shamala are you serious??Smile???What have you learn about that...And my answer will be yup..Smile...I have learn that smile a very powerful energy or whatever you all can call it..If someone smiles at you...M very sure that you will give them a very graceful smile..Smile also shows some positive energy towards one...When you smile you feel confident..Confident that the world is smiling back to you and all if going to turn out to be good..Smile not just build in confidence in you it also help to realize that problems is a part of life and it comes and go whenever it wants to...That problem shouldn't put your smile down...I have realize that and now m practising to smile to everyone i see in college and wish all my fellow college mates a good greets and also to the lecturer and my lifestyle in college has been change..Things turn out to be good and m happier now..So lets start SMILING!